February 06, 2008

i have something to say...



It’s been long since I posted something on the blog. Considering the medium, even 2-3 days is a long time and I was away for almost 20 days! Reason? Even I don’t know. Not that I didn’t have anything to say, but just that I didn’t know how to say it. But today I do.

I dread the word ‘expectations’ and no matter how hard I try to avoid it, it manages to come back to me time and again. Sometimes it’s about things I expect from others but more often it’s about things I expect from myself. At times I think I know exactly what I want from life. And at times I’m left completely clueless. Sometimes I crib because I believe I do not have enough options to choose from. And at others, I get boggled down by the choices in front of me and hate it when I have to go through the pain of choosing one thing over the other.

It gets even worse when people put a certain amount of faith in you. Relationships often get marred by expectations. It’s not easy to please everyone; rather, it’s impossible. But still, we keep trying, thinking that some day we will succeed. And though we know we are doomed to fail, we do not lose hope.

I, like everyone else, like to find solace in the word ‘hope.’

12 comments:

LilOne said...

ummeed par toh duniya kaayam hai.
bas itna pataa hona chahiye, kab badh jaana hai aur kab rukna.

Kay said...

Hope, they say, runs the world!!!

...So here's hoping you an early recovery from the blues of life!!

..And you said it..Expectations..from others and more from yourself!!Is it wrong, i wonder.

bhumika said...

@neha

so true...

"kab badh jaana hai aur kab rukna"

'hope' i am able to decide that

@kay

thanks for your wishes. i don't say that expecting is wrong. infact, we ought to expect certain things 'cos that helps making relationships stronger. as far as expecting things from oneself is concerned, i blv that's the only way we can grow...

Piggy Little said...

eventually you will. it may even not be the decision you want, perhaps. and therefore you may think its wrong. but whatever it is, it will be an accurate decision, even if not the "best" according to you.

and then tomorrow, when you come across far more worse things or are called to make more tumultuous decisions, you will at least know that the best is behind you. that you know what the best was/is. its an experience in itself. dont think of it as an end, yet. enjoy it for the process and the experience.

~ ॐ ~ said...

No Gyan...

Sirf Kalyaan !!!

enjoy the struggling with people, expectations, thoughts !!!

life is going to be better... bata raha hoon main , sachchi !!!

Swapnil said...

Without expectations relationships would be just acquaintences.

Expectations have to be a part of any meaningful relationship. Thats what gives access to pure feelings- whether they be joy and happiness when expectations are fulfilled or anger and despair when they are callously brushed away.

bhumika said...

@neha

i wish life were a little easier...

@om

hmm....experience speaks hunh? :)

@swapnil

bang on! expectations are a part and parcel of any relationship...any 'meaningful relationship'. But then, the problem is we can never decide the limit...ultimately, over expectations ruin a relationship, at times even the self

veegee said...
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veegee said...

"Hope is a good thing...probably the greatest of things...and no good thing ever dies...."a quote I had come across ina movie...

rituparna said...

Wts the big deal with expectations? I mean, why is it so scary?? I seriously dont understand this!

shuma.rani said...

I totally understand your view of expectations, there are just too many off them and that in itself can be suffocating.

Is it best to ignore and not have any? Would life be any better without expectations? or Do they hold us back from getting on with our lives?

I apologise for not leaving a coherent comment, but instead I give you more questions to ponder....

bhumika said...

@vikram

thanks. good to see you with a new blog.

@ritu

probably you haven't come across any that've scared you... see, ppl always like to be in control of their life. Expectations by self and others makes that position a little uncomfy.

"everybody wants me to be what they want me to be, i'm not happy when i try to fake it." Lionel Richie

@shuma

actually, there is no simple answer to this one. everyone comes across expectations - some can face it, some try hard to do so. But one thing is that holds true is, life wouldn't be worth it had it not been for expectations. the fact that we challenge ourselves every day makes it such a pleasure...